Monday, December 11, 2006

Jordan or James (23)

I remember reading about the Nation of Islam when I was a teenager. I can't remember if this was in a book or in the Final Call, but I read somewhere that a man should find a wife that is half his age plus 7. For me that would make her 23. It's a good concept, but I feel like a dirty old man tryna holla at a 23 year old. I bring this up because over the last week at my job, I have run into my share of 23 year old women.

Now, KZ and Synsational, don't worry. I still am not messing with any of the girls at the job. I'm gonna leave that alone... for now. I hear your warnings and plus I have plenty of real life experiences that tell me that it is not a good idea. Like the stalker at the job in Savannah or the clingy work not my girlfriend at my last job. I'm leaving them alone. But... that don't mean I cant look right? The scenery is crazy out here. My training class is in a window encased room and I can't help but to look out and girl watch. I got 2 classmates who make sure I see everyone if I happen to miss it.

My point was this. 23 year olds are too young for me. They ain't been through enough to be able to relate. They still in the club every weekend phase. But damn if I aint tempted by the one who stands too close to me and likes to hit me on my lack of azz. Or by the girl who looks good some of the time... who now looks good all of the time. (She looks like Mya, that's her new name) or the one that just blew me a kiss when she caught me looking bout 3 minutes ago. They are all 23 years old, 9 years younger than me. That's too young, right?

On another note, this is my one year anniversary in blogging. I figured 1 year was enough, but I changed my mind. I have about 220 posts, which is probably way too many for 365 days. I need to get a life one of these days, and stop with the blogging, but that isnt likely to happen anytime soon, so I am still here. Thanks for sticking around and checking me out. I hope it's been entertaining.

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26 Comments:

Anonymous chele said...

Depends on what you're looking for. If you want to have a conversation with someone ... they're probably too young. For some dudes, younger is in.

Mon Dec 11, 04:38:00 PM  
Blogger Honey-Libra said...

Hey now you just need to talk to other 23 year olds LOL..when I was 23 I wasn't at the club every weekend and I've dated a guy (R) who is 32 and he says that I'm very mature so mature that he forgets I'm younger than him LOL...so it all depends....I'm not 23 anymore LOL...I'm almost 25 woohoo (which makes me 24)

Mon Dec 11, 04:52:00 PM  
Blogger Tenacious said...

Tuh T should I be insulted? I mean I am 23, I'm not a club head *anymore*, and I'm already jaded, hell inner city neighborhoods accelerate your maturity *lol* I mean so what I was just starting to walk in the 80s, it doesn't mean I don't relate *lol* I can refer to the archives at the library *lol*

It's cool though T, I still like you even though I'm a youngin'

But wait...I am immature

**exit stage left**

Mon Dec 11, 05:17:00 PM  
Blogger SynSational said...

Glad to see you fixed your template, and uh, glad to see you are remembering what I told ya.

Mon Dec 11, 07:34:00 PM  
Blogger i like liquor and tv said...

I feel you son..and I am NOT fin'to date a dude[2x (my age -7)] ...ummm no.

Men kill me adding dating/marriage rules like that to their religions *cough* Mormons

Mon Dec 11, 08:06:00 PM  
Blogger Nika Laqui said...

Hell, I say if you do it, make it only for the sex aspect....but look at me, I'm dating a 19 year old. Lord knows I don't want no damn 40 year old fart!
Even though that might be what I need....

But why can't that calculation work for women?
Why are women's needs/desires left out of religion?
I'm saying, I want a 20 year old male concubine and my 7 husbands....lol

Mon Dec 11, 08:15:00 PM  
Blogger ScarlettRae said...

Don't count the young ones out, T. We reach our sexual peak at 40 and you'll be reaching for the little blue pill just to keep up with me. And not all of us are clubbing each weekend.

Don't count out the young ones.

SRae

Mon Dec 11, 08:27:00 PM  
Blogger Shai said...

Yuck! If I married a man based on that, he would be 58, my momz age.

I used to work with a man who was not Muslim and he married a girl(his daughter's friend) who was 36 years younger. He met her before she turned 18 cause his daughter brought her around to hang out. Yuck! now 6 years later he is miserable wondering at 59 why his 23 year old wife does not act right and why his daughter moved away and has issues with him.

Age don't guarantee wisdom at all. LOL.

Mon Dec 11, 08:30:00 PM  
Blogger Pamalicious said...

Well in order for that principle to work you also have to be in the frame of mind that you are basically 'molding you a wife'. In todays western world this doesn't fly and certainly not in the African-American community.

We all come premade, pre packaged and unable to fanthom that change, molding or anything else that might involve 'submittance' to something other than we believe to be the best could apply to us.

So in theory it makes perfect sense in the world we live into as defined by hell I don't know.

It doesn't work.

Pam - born and raised Nation of Islam and a former and present moldable person.

Mon Dec 11, 09:46:00 PM  
Blogger Ladynay said...

Happy blogaversary

Tue Dec 12, 08:39:00 AM  
Blogger NegroPino™ said...

Happy ANniversary!!!!!
My sister is 23 and her husband is 43(i think) they met when she was 20. I was like what do they ahve in common but i think she makes him feel a certain way that nobody could make him feel. They are one of the happiest couples I know. I know it doesnt work like that for everybody. ANd when i was 23, i had me a live in boyfriend and wasnt going out at all. I go out more now than I did when I was younger but thats what you supposed to do wehn u are YOUNG adn SINGLE

Tue Dec 12, 08:57:00 AM  
Blogger T.C. said...

I too know of a couple like Negropino's my line sister is 27 and her significant other is 39, and they are one of those couples that really make you believe in TRUE UNCONDITIONAL LOVE...its a beautiful thing...

It just depends...I mean at 23 I was always older than my age, mentally, I wasn't out at the clubs and all that every weekend...and maybe that's because I grew up around much older people, my brother is 8 years older than I am, so I was always with him and his friends...

It just depends...so I don't think that someone "23" is the issue it just depends on the young woman...and what she is relly all about and you won't know that until you observe her and then eventually get to know her...like my 8 year old nephew said..."go up to and talk to her and if you like her...ask for her number....then get to know her...then you will know if she is the ONE" yes you read right an 8 year old said that...but he was right...

Peace

Tue Dec 12, 09:17:00 AM  
Blogger sweetness said...

what it boils down to is, outside of the bedroom do u and these girls have common interest? is she lacking a male figure in her life. u know what leave them young girls alone cause u know what's goin to happen they are goin to get oler and their naive mentality will be no longer and they will grow into there women hood and she will feel ur holding her back. if ur rich that's another stituation.

Tue Dec 12, 10:11:00 AM  
Blogger Nexgrl said...

Happy Anniversay!!!! I haven't been reading your blog that long, but I do enjoy stopping by to see what you have to say.

Tue Dec 12, 12:47:00 PM  
Blogger Curlycurvynervy said...

Happy Anniversary, T. Glad to see it..I hope the day that you decide to stop blogging we can all change your mind somehow..take you out and feed you drinks until you give in..;-)
Age is nothing but a number..seriously. I am 27 (28 on Ja/04) but have always been more mature than my own age, and have dated up to 12 y older than myself just b/c as people we connected..numbers dont matter...that only gives you limits and who needs them. Life gives you experience, and it dictates nothing regarding age...

Tue Dec 12, 01:05:00 PM  
Blogger onefromphilly said...

23 is TOO YOUNG! The age difference isn't the issue. A 23 yr old is the issue. She's too young.

Tue Dec 12, 02:37:00 PM  
Blogger P said...

I guess it really depends. . .Some people (both men and women) are more mature than their actual ages, versus others that are bona fide fools and are older. . .

It's basically a blend of what your goals are in life, and what your same interests are, and sometimes, that is where the age gap issue comes in. It's nothing personal between the older or the younger person, that's just usually where the rift occurs, provided that the younger one is not as mature.

Tue Dec 12, 03:23:00 PM  
Blogger P said...

Oh. .

Re: Your one year anniversary.

You can come and go as often as you like. Maybe we won't see you for two weeks at a time or even more. Get on here if and when you have something to say.

And, you always seem to. . . And I always enjoy what you have to say.

Take care,
P

Tue Dec 12, 03:24:00 PM  
Blogger NegroPino™ said...

But at the same time i know immature 32 yr olds.....im on the fence cuz i found happiness and love with somebody that was younger than me and i gave it a t ry...he was the best one ever. Now I have a 18 yr who has a crush on me and thats TOO young. You gotta at least be LEGAL

Tue Dec 12, 03:59:00 PM  
Blogger Dynasty said...

I sick of younger men...to be honest older men aren't no better...LOL!

Tue Dec 12, 04:08:00 PM  
Blogger Royce's Daughter said...

Happy 100th Big Man!!! I'm glad you've decided to stick around a little longer...cause I love reading and will continue to do so as long as you continue to write.

As for the yungins...HEADACHES!!! Nothing short of a big azz headache. You need you a seasoned woman...I say step up to 7 years older then you. If she's hot and down with it then I say give it a try...a sugamomma is exactly what you need young man!!! I agree with onefromphilly it isn't the age difference necessarily but her lack of knowledge and experience and her dreams of grandeur are what concern me most LOL!!

Tue Dec 12, 04:44:00 PM  
Blogger ChezNiki said...

EYUCK so according to that theory, Im supposed to be with a 64 year old!

:-{

Like Pammie was saying, I think that was for men who wanted a girl he could train to be a his wife. My family isnt Muslim, but we had a lot of grown men marrying girls back in the day; in the deep south, thats how they did it.

If you are looking to marry, you probably need somebody who is a little closer in age and has more in common.

But for dating, repeat booty-call, etc, age is but a number...

...my number is 27! LOL!

Wed Dec 13, 12:55:00 AM  
Blogger *snake*bite* said...

Happy Anniversary!!

Haven't read all of your blogs but made my way back to first of T.Cas

"Is starting a blog the most egotistical thing I have ever done? Why does anyone care about what I am thinking? Oh yeah, because I'm the sh*t!"

"Who I'm Is? Not to sound like KRS, but I am hip hop."

"Who I'm is? I'm definitely an individual."

Well you are the shit, as for hip hop very close, but overall you are one cool indvidual so keep doin' what your doin'

xxS*Bxx

Wed Dec 13, 08:30:00 AM  
Blogger 4EverJennayNay said...

Happy belated blogaversary.

I thought about hanging it up at one year, but I still have plenty more rambles in me.

I am routinely the ass of my friends jokes for dating older guys. I was out with a friend a few weeks ago and the couple seated next to us asked me if I thought it was wrong for an older woman to date a younger man. My friend and I just laughed because he is definately 9 yrs older than me. BUT they said it wasn't that serious if the guy was older.

Do you. Whatever floats ya boat and finds ya lost remote!

Wed Dec 13, 09:40:00 AM  
Blogger 4EverJennayNay said...

Happy belated blogaversary.

I thought about hanging it up at one year, but I still have plenty more rambles in me.

I am routinely the ass of my friends jokes for dating older guys. I was out with a friend a few weeks ago and the couple seated next to us asked me if I thought it was wrong for an older woman to date a younger man. My friend and I just laughed because he is definately 9 yrs older than me. BUT they said it wasn't that serious if the guy was older.

Do you. Whatever floats ya boat and finds ya lost remote!

Wed Dec 13, 09:51:00 AM  
Blogger 4EverJennayNay said...

Happy belated blogaversary.

I thought about hanging it up at one year, but I still have plenty more rambles in me.

I am routinely the ass of my friends jokes for dating older guys. I was out with a friend a few weeks ago and the couple seated next to us asked me if I thought it was wrong for an older woman to date a younger man. My friend and I just laughed because he is definately 9 yrs older than me. BUT they said it wasn't that serious if the guy was older.

Do you. Whatever floats ya boat and finds ya lost remote!

Wed Dec 13, 08:27:00 PM  

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