Monday, October 02, 2006

What's Your Type?

I had a conversation last week with Trizzy about types. Does everybody have specific qualities that they look for in a mate? I know for me, I usually end up dating the women that look fairly similar. But what do you do when you are attracted to someone who is not your usual type? Using myself for an example, I usually am attracted to one type of woman more than others. They are generally short, chocolate, not too skinny. That's been my go to woman since college. That's not to say that's all I have dated, but in looking back at some of my old pictures, my so called type is evident. I don't even know if its a conscious thing, but it's there.

It's not only the physical qualities that are similar, but also certain personality types. For example, a lot of the women I date have a tendency to be involved with the church. This is ironic because I haven't gone to church regularly since I was 17. I'll let you amateur psychologists analyze that one. LOL. Also, they have to be intelligent and be able to hold a conversation. With the exception of Stalker #2, all my girlfriends have been smart. Finally, dealing with me, a woman has to have a sense of humor. I am always joking about something, and I can't deal with someone who takes everything too seriously.

I think that as I get older, I don't only allow myself to be attracted to one certain type anymore. It used to be that I wouldn't date anyone taller than me, but that requirement is gone. I think at this point in my life, I only have one deal breaker. I refuse to talk to or go out with dumb girls, no matter how sexy they are. That's my only non negotiable now.

So, that begs the question, what is your type? I don't mean your ideal Hollywood celebrity type, but the one that you actually meet and go out with. Ladies, do you go for suits or thugs? Fellas, do you only date women with a certain body or hair type? Do you always go for the same type of guy/girl or do you have various tastes? What's your deal breaker? Hit me up in the comments section.

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24 Comments:

Blogger LUVIN ME said...

I don't think I have a type...All of the guys I have dated have been different. I guess I just kept trying all different types until I found the right one....

Mon Oct 02, 11:35:00 AM  
Blogger Miss Ahmad said...

i definately have a type, mostly guys who look like my first love. that's easy to figure out. most of my guys are brown skin, with hair..you know afro, some curls (not jheri curls something natural), tall, thin, smart and quirky.

i call 'em preppy slutty!

typical went to boarding school or prep school, might have been Ivy League, or Potted Ivy, and not athletic unless they did something obscure like rowed, or fenced!

my other type is blue black and athletic, but i don't seem to find as many of them laying around as I used to, I think they get snatched up pretty quick.

I've dated plenty of men shorter than me, but I'm trying to move away from that. Right now I'm trying to base my criteria or something other than just good looks...wish me luck!

Mon Oct 02, 12:17:00 PM  
Blogger NegroPino™ said...

Pre -2005, my type was a chocolate brotha between 160-210 lbs,not too short but not over 6 feet. Baldie,braided,facial, tats didnt matter. 2006, Im on some brand new shit. As long as u have a job and treat me with respect we good. Im more open to things because i was limiting myself before. But u can't be shorter than me, and I dont like tall guys still. SO somewhere theres a medium.

Mon Oct 02, 12:57:00 PM  
Blogger onefromphilly said...

I need a cerebral brother. Someone who stimulates me intellectually. The older I get the more I realize that a man must make love to my mind first and then my body.

Mon Oct 02, 02:31:00 PM  
Anonymous chele said...

I don't think I have a type either. My husbands were as different as night and day ... except they were both in the military and they were both liars.

The guy has be taller than me and thugs (in speech, dress or occupation)need not apply.

Mon Oct 02, 02:38:00 PM  
Blogger ----- said...

LMAO @ dealbreaker ;) I love it!! :D

Just for the record...I'm SO not your "type". I mean, I'm just saying though!

Great post...

My type?? Hmmm...smart, sensual, easy on the eyes, funny, strong (not just physically)...you think that's too much to ask?

~Trish

Mon Oct 02, 02:41:00 PM  
Blogger Honey-Libra said...

I love a man with a sexy smile, wonderful smelling cologne and can go from earing timbs to kenneth coles in 10 seconds flat...a man that holds me like i'm never coming back and kisses me like my lips are made of peach juice...umm ok that's enough LOL

I despise dumb men...and those who think that the world revolves around madden

Mon Oct 02, 04:33:00 PM  
Blogger ChezNiki said...

I denied that I had a type for years...then some of my oldest friends, my sister and my photo album called my bluff, LOL.

I actually need to start going in a different direction, though...I really cant date anymore bouncers, dumb men or young men, even if they are foine and large...and curved ((sigh))...so to answer your question?

"Yes, but I'll never tell"

TEE HEE HEE

Mon Oct 02, 06:21:00 PM  
Blogger Nika Laqui said...

I just love men....

Tall, short, dark skinned, light skinneded..*lol*

In my younger days I was attracted to thugs....

Nowadays, I love a man in a suit, that can get thuggish when its time to get thuggish....but he knows when, where and how to choose his battles.

I love a man who is very clean, I'm a germaphobe....

A man who wears cologne....

Intelligence is very impotant and the ability to converse....

Sense of humor is a must....

Penis size is definitely a major factor....*lol*

I don't like bald men or men with braids (exception *Puddy* cause he was /is so on his shit and knows how to fanagle in corporate AmeriKKKa)

Teeth are important as well...I can't kiss no fucked up grill....

Most of my guys have similiar features and/or personalities....

I don't like fat men(he can have a belly, but not be obese)....but I'll do a skinny nigga....swoll nigga, but no athletes...

Country niggas, city niggas, Filipino, PuertoRican.....

Mon Oct 02, 08:21:00 PM  
Blogger fallen angel said...

"i like 'em brown, yella, puerto-rican, or haitian..."

to be honest, i like dudes who like me! i prefer Black guys (even though White guys definitely step to a sista)!

Mon Oct 02, 08:53:00 PM  
Blogger i like liquor and tv said...

I'm a pessimist/complainer... whatever you want to call it, so I'm gonna tell you that I like all guys except the ones who:

- are into the whole neo soul thing
- wear blazers with jeans
- has been married before
- has been in the armed forces
- is a cop
- can dance
- doesn't drink
- goes to church more than once a week
- likes to sing
- has young kids
- talks to his mom every day
- likes women of all races
- doesn't like to work out
- has more dress shoes than sneakers
- doesn't laugh at my jokes no matter how wack they are

Mon Oct 02, 10:13:00 PM  
Blogger The Mistress said...

I actually don't think I have "a type". Looking back on all my relationships and all the sex I've had, the men are very diverse. If I had to pick a type and stick to it I would choose a non-light skinned man, taller than 6'0, thick frame, short hair, excellent grooming, non-ghetto, educated, nice teeth, good job, independent lifestyle, and NO KIDS.

This dude sounds JUST like Mr. K now that I think about it...

Yay for me!

Tue Oct 03, 12:27:00 AM  
Blogger Tenacious said...

What I attract:

I LOVES a chocolate man...but all my boyfriends have either been light or brown skinned...Chocolate men have been shying away from me until now

-Mama's Boys...Not a bad thing but not always a good thing either LOL

-Crazies flock to me

-"Thugs"...well the fake ones

-Short men, I don't like a man that I'm literally eye to eye with

My Type:

Taller than me
intelligent
funny
nice eyes, teeth and smile
easy on the eyes
disease free
drama free
excellent hygiene
great dresser
*chocolate*
fantastic kisser

A man that treats me like the African Queen that I am is alright in my book.

Tue Oct 03, 12:28:00 AM  
Anonymous Up in Harlem said...

I like men in general... however a man in a suit who is clean cut with a killer smile, sense of humor and has strong hands is more than likely to have me purrring.

I don't do lite skin men, shorter than me men, bitingly sarcastic men...definitely not into thugs, braids or fast talkers (read: bullshitter)

Tue Oct 03, 12:29:00 AM  
Blogger Royce's Daughter said...

First...I never connected with Dynasty this weekend and therefore I did nada (which was great) so that's why I didn't call you...but we defintely gotta connect before I leave.

As for my type...it's funny. I prefer big men. Big as in wide and tall. Not necessarily obese but I like a meaty man LOL!! 6'2 and above and over 215 lbs. I also love dark men and men with bald heads. Ironically though, I always end up with light men (ugh!) who are average height (6 feet) and who are slender or average build. My "Muse" is a light skin Jamaican, about 6'1, and about 200 lbs...*sigh* I guess I need to change my preference...LOL!!

Tue Oct 03, 10:08:00 AM  
Blogger Miz JJ said...

I don't think that I have a type. I think if you only go for one 'type' then you'll miss out, especially the physicial stuff. I only date guys who are so tall, or a certain shade of black etc. I do have a 'just say no' to thugs policy. I love guys who are well read and that are just as smart if not smarter than me. I test most men I meet by asking them about their favorite book. Then I read it. I have learned a lot about dudes that way. And most important you must be a good listener because I love to talk.

Tue Oct 03, 10:36:00 AM  
Blogger Mocha_Grl said...

Hmmm me and Miss Ahmad should hang out...I think we're into the same type of dudes...wait does that mean we shouldn't hang out? LOL
I've dated all kinds, but typically?
tall(er than me), brown, dreads or fro, phsyically active (I get this body, from ball or hiking not lifting weights in the gym), feels my style and has one of his own...what does Miz JJ call me? hobo chic? Love a man that can complement that with his own style.

But the dealbreakers? intelligence and a sarcastic sense of humour to match mine. If you don't got that...you don't got Mocha :D

Tue Oct 03, 10:38:00 AM  
Blogger TTD said...

i dont have a type per se.. but i have a few qualities w/in the person that i look for.. honest, dependable, funny.. to name a few

u know i'm addicted? where's the next "episode"????

Tue Oct 03, 11:56:00 AM  
Blogger SynSational said...

My type...hmmm....I don't think I have a particular type anymore. I love a man who looks good dressed up, but still comfortable dressed down also. He has to be versatile like me. But if he's honest, doesn't play mind games, sense of humor, AMBITIOUS and not too serious acting, I'll give him a chance. I don't like people who don't want anything in life. That's a big turn-off. Also, I'm short, and I've dated short guys, but I loves me a tall brotha.

Tue Oct 03, 12:23:00 PM  
Blogger nikki said...

i see me and royce have something in common.

i started with a list of stuff, then realized i didn't have enough time nor you enough space to peep my type. therefore, i'll just keep it to the bare minimum...smart, sexy, pro-active, insightful, spiritual, creative and taller than me with a big dick.

Tue Oct 03, 12:24:00 PM  
Blogger The L said...

its funny you bring this up. i have been known in my past to be pretty equal opportunity, whether that's good or bad. But i was just talking to my sister the other day who is single and she was talking about as she gets older she feels like she needs to be more picky have more standards that she should stick to when it comes to looking for a guy, because she needs to find someone that might be more long term. Sounds like you are almost on the opposite end of the spectrum, interesting!

Tue Oct 03, 03:12:00 PM  
Blogger nikki said...

here's your truth:

how many women have you said "i love you" to in the last eight months, not including the women you're related to. have you told them you loved them more than ten times (total count for all of them).

have you told your mom you love her more than ten times in the last eight months? told, i.e. via conversation.

Thu Oct 05, 08:06:00 AM  
Blogger Robert L. Mack said...

Man I'm so over the map, but I'll say that I'm into chicks with a pretty face, smart and intelligent, 0 or 1 kid, azz for days...yeah I love long hair but a chick with a short hair game like Halle is nice too

Thu Oct 05, 01:42:00 PM  
Blogger ShellyP said...

I love all types of men. I grew up in a multicultural environment so I didn't rule anyone out. As it turned out, 90+% of the guys I "talked to" were Jamaican.

Physically though the guy has to be at least my height. I used to think I preferred the basketball player type - tall, well-toned, not too skinny. But then I met my husband. He's not much taller, but he's built more like a football player. Did I let that deter me? Oh heck nah! :) In reality, I never thought I would pull someone like him.

Mentally, the guy has to be smart to keep my attention. He must be able to hold his own - I'm known to be argumentative so he's got to be able to back up whatever he says. A sense of humor is also a must. And not last nor least, he must believe in God.

Thu Oct 05, 04:08:00 PM  

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